Cornered by Love, with Rica

The Navigator

Q: I have a major problem. I think I am falling for my best friend. But he has a girlfriend. We have been friends for years and I never saw him this way before. I don’t know if it is because I have been single for a while and all my other friends seems to be pairing off and disappearing, but it is getting harder and harder for me to keep it to myself. It is no secret I don’t like his girlfriend, but I didn’t like her before I felt this way about him. I don’t want to regret not telling him before he leaves for summer, but he might be coming back next semester to finish an internship, so if he turns me down I could lose my best friend. I don’t know what to do.

A: Since you have been friends with this man for years and the feelings are just beginning to blossom, I’m getting the feeling that this may be more about you than about him.  Its pretty common to manifest feelings for someone you are close to when you are feeling lonely and all your friends are in relationships.  I wouldn’t say anything to him right now.  Wait until after the summer and if you still have feelings for him, then by all means go ahead and tell him.  Meanwhile, focus on yourself.  Have fun this summer.  Go out with your friends and go on a few dates.  You may find that you really don’t feel the way you once thought about your best friend.  Good luck!

On a more personal note…I would like to take this opportunity to give some final advice to my readers.  I am graduating so this will be the last Cornered by Love.

For my ladies, never forget what you are worth.  Don’t ever settle for anything less than happiness and don’t accept any of the crap some men will try to throw your way.  You’re better than that and you deserve better.  Find a man who truly appreciates who you are and who values your feelings.

For my fellas, don’t get frustrated when you feel like you don’t understand females.  Stop trying!  Men and women are completely different and we view situations from different angles.  As men, you are mostly solution based.  A woman talks to you about something and you immediately try to fix it.  Sometimes we just want you to listen.  Find the one who makes you want to forget all the rest and you will find true happiness.  Until then, have fun and don’t break too many hearts!

Thank you so much for allowing me the opportunity to write this column for the past two years.  I hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have, but more importantly, I hope that I have been able to help you navigate through some of your relationships.

Best wishes and much love,

Rica